Finding the “win” inside every loss

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Taking advantage of things going wrong…
Is excavating the “win” that exists inside of every “loss!”

Beauty and the Beast. Photo by Giovana Medeiros @ Flickr Creative Commons

Clearly I cannot find that win…
If I am so upset with losing…
That I choose not to see whatever positives…
Lie within the wreckage of my failing…It is later on, looking back,
When I’ve extracted gratitude from my so called negative times…
That I begin to accept what is actually good about my bad…!
By acknowledging that my ostensible “losses,”
Are only good or bad according to my personal take on them…!
My predisposition to predetermined outcomes!

But, what if what I pronounce as disappointing…
Is truly but a collection of outcomes that just didn’t go my way?
And, my adversity thus created by MY expectations unfulfilled?
Either way, why should I resist, retreat and even resent?
When there is a guaranteed “win” lurking in my next melodrama…
Waiting for me to own up…
So that I can claim my reward…
Perhaps winning is always present!
The simple act…of seeking positivity in every blessed life event…
In which case, the undeniable truth is…
There can never be ANY real, & most certainly, permanent loss!

Originally published at PhilTowle.com. Cross-posted with permission from the author.

Phil Towle is an internationally acknowledged ‘Performance Coach” who mentors excellence in sport, entertainment and business…  Find more of his creativity and guidance at philtowle.com…

 

Is psychic pain morality’s revenge?

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Subtitle: Living Inside Your Discomfort Zone

“Is our society’s increased mental stress and emotional suffering, a symptomatic response to our increased compromising of moral principles for selfish gain?

Psychological ‘unwellness’ does not indiscriminately descend upon ‘innocent’ people. Is our prevailing psychic pain…‘morality’ merely exacting it’s ‘revenge’?…’Nature’s conscience’ intensifying unhappiness to salvage our integrity, before we self-indulge ourselves into irreversible ‘mental illness’?” –PT, June 2011

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For a society that measures its “well being,”
By how successfully we inhabit our dreams,
How true we are to ourselves…
How often we achieve happiness…
And, how well we protect personal rights and freedoms…

How come we expend so much energy wrestling our embattled psyches?

Fighting off depression and anxiety,
Managing stress…
Running from fear…
Numbing pain…
Altering reality…
Only to manufacture that much more mental and emotional anguish,
Scrambling to retreat from “life…”
In direct violation of our human contract…
To “live… (not leave)…”
Each and every moment…
Whether “threatening” or pleasant appearing,
As it presently “stands” in front of us!

Is there not a correlation between our epidemic of unhappiness,
And, bolting from life…?
Are we not “wired” to engage what exists,
Comfortable or not…?

…………………..

“Fight or flight…” “Gunning or running…”
Apparent antitheses of one another…
Each, defile our purpose for living:
To love…
To get close,
And, never put dissent nor distance between us…

“Fighting,” in whatever form…
Is employing power that masks impotence…
Purging our pain upon a designated scapegoat…
“Satisfying” our most base of human instincts,
While subverting our most basic human nature

“Running from”
Is cowardly disengagement…
Abandoning responsibility to, and for, each other…
Flight to nowhere…
Destination, denial…

Either escapist “strategy” triggers psychic pain…
Proliferating troubled minds and hearts…
Legitimately suffering,
For willfully compromising principles…

Morality’s “revenge…”
“Declaring” that no unethical behavior
Escapes the failsafe of my vigilant integrity,
Without severe psycho-spiritual consequences!

Raising this important philosophical question:

Has widespread rejection of moral principles,
Unwittingly spawned…
A diseased culture… of mutating pain…
Inside our human soul…
Now fully accepted, thus treated as…

“Mental illness…?”

Originally Posted: June 24th, 2011 |  Reposted with permission of the author, Phil Towle

Phil Towle is an internationally acknowledged ‘Performance Coach” who mentors excellence in sport, entertainment and business…  Find more of his creativity and guidance at philtowle.com…

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